Recently, while chatting with friends, we touched upon a common headache for guys: how to respond when a girl says "whatever"? Honestly, this was something I used to be puzzled about too. Over time, I've figured out some strategies, and today I'd like to share my insights with you.
First, it's important to understand that when a girl says "whatever," it's actually a test. As one netizen commented, "When a girl says 'whatever,' she's actually testing the guy's emotional intelligence." They want to see if you truly understand her and can guess her thoughts. So, don't just brush it off casually, as that will only make her feel like you're not putting in enough effort.
My first tip is: observe the details. What a girl usually likes to eat or where she likes to go often reveals itself inadvertently. For example, she might frequently check reviews of a certain restaurant or show particular interest in a specific attraction. These details are clues to her true preferences. One netizen shared, "When my girlfriend said 'whatever,' I took her to a restaurant she had bookmarked for a long time but never visited, and she was thrilled." This is the result of careful observation.
The second tip is: offer options. When a girl says "whatever," she's actually waiting for you to give her a direction. You can provide two or three options for her to choose from. For instance, "Shall we go to the movies or go shopping?" This gives her the space to choose without making her feel like you're being dismissive. A netizen commented, "This trick really works; girls feel that you respect their opinions and have initiative."
The third tip is: create surprises. Sometimes, a girl says "whatever" because she doesn't know what she wants herself. That's when you can take the initiative and surprise her. For example, take her to a place she's never been before or prepare a small gift. One netizen shared, "On my birthday, my boyfriend suddenly took me to a trendy restaurant I had always wanted to visit and prepared a small gift, which really moved me." Such surprises can often touch a girl's heart.
Of course, these tricks aren't foolproof; the key is to genuinely understand the other person. Everyone's personality and preferences are different, and only by truly understanding her can you read her mind. As one netizen said, "Girls are actually quite simple; as long as you put in the effort, she will definitely feel it."
Finally, I want to say that understanding a girl's mind isn't about pleasing her, but about making the relationship more harmonious. I hope these little tips can help you, and I wish everyone can find someone who understands and loves you.