Recently, while chatting with my close friends about relationships, I noticed a common issue among many girls—they are afraid to express their needs. This reminded me of a story I once read, which left a deep impression on me. Today, I want to discuss this topic with you.
I remember a girl named Qingmei, who grew up in a household where she dared not make any requests because her father had a volatile temper and would often get angry. As she grew older and entered into relationships, she habitually kept her needs to herself. Once, her boyfriend, Dagang, took her out for Chongqing hotpot. Despite not being able to handle spicy food, she forced herself to finish the meal, ending up with tears and a runny nose from the heat. Dagang was heartbroken and said, "You silly girl, why didn't you say you couldn't eat spicy food?" It was then that Qingmei realized expressing her needs wasn't as difficult as she thought.
In fact, communication in a relationship is crucial. As one netizen aptly put it, "Your partner isn't a mind reader. If you don't say what you want, they really won't know!" This hits the nail on the head. We often hope our partners can guess our thoughts, but the reality is, no one can completely understand another's mind. Instead of making them guess, it's better to express ourselves openly.
I recall another story about Yuzhu and Xiaofeng, who had a disagreement over a drink. Yuzhu asked Xiaofeng to buy her a drink, and when he asked what she wanted, she said, "Whatever." Xiaofeng bought her iced black tea, but Yuzhu was unhappy because she usually preferred coconut water. Xiaofeng was frustrated, "You said 'whatever' when I asked, but there's no drink called 'whatever'!" This small misunderstanding could have been easily avoided if Yuzhu had just stated her preference directly.
Thinking about this, I remembered a time when I was on a date with my boyfriend. I was extremely tired but didn't want to say so. I ended up forcing myself to stay out all night, only to collapse into bed as soon as I got home. When he found out, he teased me, "If you're tired, just say so. I wouldn't have minded." Since then, I've learned to express my needs openly in our relationship, whether I'm tired, hungry, or want to go somewhere.
Communication in a relationship isn't difficult; the key is to learn how to express yourself. As another netizen commented, "Girls should be straightforward in relationships. If you have needs, speak up. Don't wait for others to guess." Indeed, everyone is busy; why play the guessing game? Speaking up not only helps your partner understand you better but also makes your relationship smoother.
So, dear sisters, stop hiding your feelings. Be bold about what you like, what you want, and when you"re tired or sleepy. Love is a two-way street, and only through mutual honesty can you go further. I hope we all find someone willing to listen and understand us, creating more beautiful memories together.
