Girls are naturally defensive towards strangers, which leads to the fact that when we chat with strange girls, we always feel that they are very cold and it is difficult to get closer to them. Even after chatting for a long time, we still can’t get rid of them. This feeling of strangeness. So how can you chat with a strange girl to get closer to her so that she can no longer be so aloof?
1 , Establish a more stable connection with girls
When chatting with strange girls, their attitude is still very cold after chatting for a long time. A large part of the reason is that a more stable chat has not been established, that is, it has not been given to them. Want a sense of security.
Therefore, when chatting with strange girls, the first step we have to do is to exchange more personal information with them, and establish a more solid connection through chatting with each other, so as to make girls feel safe.
Of course, we may also encounter situations where a girl is unwilling to exchange information. At this time, we need to find more common interests and resonance with the girl, so that she feels that we understand her, so that she can Will let down his guard and exchange information with you.
2. Take the initiative to provide topics and deepen the sense of connection
When we establish a relationship with strange girls through chatting After a solid connection, her cold appearance no longer exists. If we want to get closer to each other, we need to deepen this sense of connection. So what exactly should you do?
The simplest way is to chat about some topics that girls are interested in and want to talk about, use these topics to arouse the girl's resonance, and then show her yourself We use methods such as the characteristics of her hobbies to attract others, and guide her to exchange the information we need after proactively providing her with value.
For example, "I prefer reading and running, which can make people's minds and thinking more agile and their bodies healthier. What do you usually like to do?"
Put yourself in high quality of life, take the initiative to share the good aspects with girls, and then guide girls to share.
At this time, if a girl says "I don't have any hobbies", then the reply at this time requires skills.
At this time, you can talk to girls about your interests and hobbies to exaggerate your attraction. If girls are interested in your topic, another option is to change the topic and check the girls’ interests and hobbies from the girl’s circle of friends. Such as food, movies, etc.
But what is needed is that when chatting with girls, it does not matter what you talk about. What is important is to involve girls in it and guide them to talk more, instead of just enjoying yourself there alone.
3. Break the sense of harmony and lead the relationship towards the direction
When we deepen our sense of connection, our relationship with this strange girl becomes more than just an online friend. It can be said that we are already close friends. However, if such a relationship is not further upgraded in time, it is likely to enter the friendship zone.
Therefore, after completing the above two steps, we have the last step, which is to break the sense of harmony, lead the relationship, and bring the relationship closer.
For example, we confide our concerns to her, and she expresses slightly different ideas when she confides in us.
To express emotions and concepts with our personal characteristics, we need to not analyze and evaluate some specific events with girls, but to express our opinions on the matter. feelings about things.
For example, if a girl has a conflict with a friend and she is very angry, don’t think about analyzing the whole story for the girl at this time, who is right and who is wrong. This is not the answer that the girl wants and may even trigger her rebellion. Psychologically, I think you are blaming her. What we have to do is to express to her our shared feelings of hatred and hatred, and by the way, tell her about a similar experience of our own.
The more events you reach agreement on through unique emotions, the more things you and a girl can talk about completely openly, and the closer you are to being unreserved to each other. Reaching the point where there is no reservation means that the relationship between you has become extremely close and solid.
