It is undeniable that long-term chatting can bring out feelings. With long chats and verbal speculation, the love will grow over time. But the relationship created by chatting alone is difficult to last long.
Live life more straightforwardly. If you like someone through chatting, you are not actually falling in love with someone. Instead, fall in love with your fantasies.
The biggest difference between the feelings produced by chatting and the feelings produced by real interactions is that the former relies on one's own imagination. The latter is the process of how we feel about a real person.
Perhaps when chatting, the other party sent a selfie in exquisite clothes, then you are more willing to believe that "she is fair, rich and beautiful", but this may not be the case;
Maybe the person you fell in love with online took a picture of an exquisite breakfast, so you are more willing to believe that "she is a person who loves life", but the fact may be that she is too lazy to even wash her clothes... ..
Therefore, no matter how speculative the chat is and no matter how right we feel about each other, to a large extent "we are all falling in love with our own fantasies" and the other person is just a container. Imagine your ideal partner, but the reality may be very different.
In other words, it is not this person you like, it can be anyone else, the other person just assumes your love What you enjoy is just a virtual pleasure of being satisfied. Can such a relationship be called a true relationship?
Why is there a high chance of death after online dating occurs?< /p>
It’s not because we imagined this person so well in the early stage that when we actually meet, it is easy to have a huge psychological gap. The longing for a beautiful love that we once had was shattered in a short period of time. broken.
So having said that, the feelings you talk about are just "you have fallen in love with your own fantasy", and the other party is also the same.
But you have no idea what the other person really looks like - what is the other person’s real name? What does he do? What is his personality like? What kind of emotional experiences have you had? Are you the same person? ?Are the three views consistent?
It is because of online dating that these very critical factors in falling in love are taken care of by you on a whim. All your fantasies were wiped out, so that when you wanted to actually meet in real life, you realized that "each other is really not suitable at all."
So please remember that chatting is just a tool for you to know and understand each other, and it must not be regarded as the only evidence of love.
