When couples quarrel, the matter is not big or small. Some couples handle the aftermath of the quarrel very well, so they can reconcile as before after the quarrel. And some couples just let it go after the quarrel and throw it aside. On the surface, it seems to have no impact on the relationship, but in fact, the hidden dangers of breaking up slowly accumulate. How do couples deal with it after they quarrel?
1. Calm down first
When a couple quarrels, both parties are more impulsive, and it is easy to make wrong decisions impulsively, or say hurtful words. Therefore, when both parties are angry after a couple quarrel, give each other some time to calm down first. But calmness does not mean a cold war. A cold war is always the worst way to deal with things. Leaving her alone to think about things will also kill the relationship between them.
@Dandange: I had a fight with my girlfriend one time, and I was really angry. I ran out of the house in anger and walked on the path in the green belt of the community. I suddenly became enlightened. I feel that she is my child. It is normal for children to be upset. If I bow my head for one second later, she will have one more second to think and be tortured. I can't let her suffer like this. It was painful, so I bought her favorite snacks, ran to apologize, and then reconciled smoothly. I believe that quarrels should be ended as soon as possible, and should not be fought overnight. The cold war should be bowed down first, otherwise the problem may worsen.
2. Give each other a step down
After a couple quarrels, the boy will bow his head when he sees that the situation is not right, and give it to his girlfriend. As soon as she reached the next step, she took the next step, and the quarrel ended there. How to specifically give the other party a step down? You can buy your girlfriend a gift you like. It doesn’t have to be expensive, it can be a favorite snack or a favorite gadget, just like it, make the other person happy, and show your sincerity. Or tell your girlfriend a little joke to make her happy. As long as she laughs, the quarrel will be over. Of course, if your girlfriend doesn't pick up your steps, the problem may be more difficult, and you need to reflect on whether there is something you haven't done well yet. If your girlfriend is too pretentious and doesn't want to step down, then there's no need to support her all the time.
3. Broadly speaking
Many times when couples quarrel, it is actually the difference in thinking between the two parties. Everyone thinks The other party can understand what you mean, but in fact, the ideas are very different, which can easily cause conflicts and start quarrels. It is recommended that everyone spread the word about this situation, which will save a lot of trouble.
@木子丝: My boyfriend is a super mean-mouthed man who doesn’t know how to say nice things. His good words turn bad in his mouth. Sometimes I would just hang up the video or call, and he would call and coax me. I'm the kind of person who, as long as I'm not the originalThen the problem is with girls who are easy to coax. In fact, when I first got together with my girlfriend, we would have a cold war when we quarreled, but it was very hurtful. That has changed now. If there is any problem, just tell him directly, whether you talk to him or hit him (not really hit him), no Hold it in, it's healthier to quarrel, as long as you keep your mouth shut, it's fine. We don't quarrel all night long. We have a rule that we will turn the page if it changes the world (of course, it is limited to non-principle issues), and we are getting along very well now.
